Family Tribute:A Dad’s Brief Remembrance of His Daughter
For Leah Oliver, by Walter Oliver, 10/20/2001
Of all the people in the world I could quote at a time like this, I am most moved by the words of comedienne Gilda Radner, taken from us early by cancer, who said 'I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned the hard way that some poems don’t rhyme and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what is going to happen next.'
Life is about not knowing. Surely the last few weeks have proved that to all of us. But bringing Leah into this world is one thing I know for certain I’ve done absolutely right in my life. I love all my children equally, and I’m equally proud of each of them. Leah was just that little bit special because she was my first. As oldest children often do, Leah marched through life with a sense of purpose, determined to be successful. And she exceeded my expectations all along the way.
Despite this determination and her young age, she stopped frequently to look around her and enjoy what God’s earth had to offer. She brightened everyone’s life with a heart full of genuine concern, an ear always willing to listen, a hand ready to help, a cute little wink and the most beautiful smile in the world. She loved life, and she loved us all.
Leah was like me in many ways and we understood each other. Sometimes I thought to myself 'how awful for her', but more often I reveled in it. Oh, she could be cranky now and then, like her dad, but no one who knew her needs to be told that she was a warm, kind and sensitive person. I hope her dad had something to do with that, too.
For a time we shared one of my passions - motorcycling. We’d head out on beautiful Sunday mornings to tour the countryside of northeastern New Jersey and up into New York State. We had an intercom on the bike that allowed us to share our thoughts about the ride as we passed interesting things along the way. We both enjoyed the way motorcycling or even driving a convertible with the top down can make you a more active participant in the modern mechanical world - closer to the smells and textures of the outdoors. We felt so free. She was a wonderful passenger and it was always my pleasure to have her along - on the road, as well as in my life.
I am filled with sorrow at having lost my daughter. Grief recedes with time and grace, but we will never forget all the possibilities and hopes we had for Leah that are left unrealized. Part of my soul has been ripped away from me, and I will never be the same.
We had several jokes between us, but the one I enjoyed most went like this: 'Leah, did you know you were my favorite daughter?' And she would always reply, 'but Dad, I’m your only daughter.'
Leah, you will always be my only daughter - frozen in time one day before your 25th birthday.
I know that you have passed into a better world. And I pray that someday, we will tour the wonders of that world together.
For Leah
(by our friend Dennis Kleinman)
Beautiful, right from the startA sparkle deep in dark, dark eyesSmart, oh my yes, very smartAn open heart turned 'smart' to 'wise'Even Time, the friend of fewBlessed her with each passing yearAnd increased all that was good and trueMade dearer what we held so dearThere are no words, although one triesTo recreate what now is goneA sparkle deep in dark, dark eyesThat in memory sparkles on.
Leah,We had reservations at the Marriott in Brooklyn to be together Columbus weekend.Now we can only be together in spirit.We were to visit the city you loved so much. 'Mom' you would say, 'I am so happy, Eric Costa is so awesome'. We were to visit Brooklyn Heights and the apartment you made your home.'Mom I want to take you to see where I work at the WTC. The view is unbelievable. I am so happy with my employers and colleagues.' She said.Leah you were on top of the world in life and now in spirit.Leah you gave the nicest gifts, love, beauty, and joy.You are the kind of daughter every parent dreams of having.We are so proud of you.With your energy you filled those around you with life and joy.Leah you are forever with us for we carry your heart in our hearts.Leah we love you and we miss you.Until we meet again.MomLeah,You were taken from us too soon So many dreams, so many plans, so much still left to do Now you will have them with GodYou’ve made such an impact on your family and friendsI am sure you will continue to be just as amazingYou could light up a room with your smile Now it lights up the sky aboveYour unique laughter, so much laughterNow you laugh with angelsI learned many things from youThe joy of givingThe true meaning of beautyMom’s success story A precious treasure she will hold dear to her heart with much prideA flame has gone out for all of usYour flame burns eternallyYou were my angel on earthNow you are my angel in HeavenWe will love you, remember you and miss you as long as we liveGood night my love, look for me.Aunty P To Leah,There are so many little things I shall never forget about you, from little greasy fingerprints on cocktail table tops, to that broad mischievious smile that quickly turned into a grin, to a serious pensive ear that grasped and understood all that was in my heart and soul. These little simple things I shall never forget about you.I watched you grow in years filled with joy and wonder. I saw you blossom into a beautiful young lady in the prime of her life. I was a witness to your many worldly achievements. I knew about your dreams, your joys and your disappointments. I shared many of your joys and some of your sadder moments.Leah, do you know how proud I am of you? From Columbia unerversity to the WTC, you led a charmed life. You were making the right choices and going to all the right places. Your life may have been short but it was a life well lived. Your life brought joy to all you touched.Yes Leah you worked hard, you partied hard, but most important of all you loved much. The love in your heart didn't know any limitations. You loved life. You loved your family. You loved your friends. You loved your fellow man. You loved your work. You loved our planet and all that was in it. In your subtle and unobstrusive way you showed me how to live my life.You are now with God and forever in my heart.'Til we embrace again, I Love You!Uncle Joe
Leah,
We had reservations at the Marriott in Brooklyn to be together Columbus weekend.
Now we can only be together in spirit.
We were to visit the city you loved so much.
'Mom' you would say, 'I am so happy, Eric Costa is so awesome'. We were to visit Brooklyn Heights and the apartment you made your home.
'Mom I want to take you to see where I work at the WTC. The view is unbelievable. I am so happy with my employers and colleagues.' She said.
Leah you were on top of the world in life and now in spirit.
Leah you gave the nicest gifts, love, beauty, and joy.
You are the kind of daughter every parent dreams of having.
We are so proud of you.
With your energy you filled those around you with life and joy.
Leah you are forever with us for we carry your heart in our hearts.
Leah we love you and we miss you.
Until we meet again.
Mom
Leah,You were taken from us too soon So many dreams, so many plans, so much still left to do Now you will have them with GodYou’ve made such an impact on your family and friendsI am sure you will continue to be just as amazingYou could light up a room with your smile Now it lights up the sky aboveYour unique laughter, so much laughterNow you laugh with angelsI learned many things from youThe joy of givingThe true meaning of beautyMom’s success story A precious treasure she will hold dear to her heart with much prideA flame has gone out for all of usYour flame burns eternallyYou were my angel on earthNow you are my angel in HeavenWe will love you, remember you and miss you as long as we liveGood night my love, look for me.Aunty P To Leah,There are so many little things I shall never forget about you, from little greasy fingerprints on cocktail table tops, to that broad mischievious smile that quickly turned into a grin, to a serious pensive ear that grasped and understood all that was in my heart and soul. These little simple things I shall never forget about you.I watched you grow in years filled with joy and wonder. I saw you blossom into a beautiful young lady in the prime of her life. I was a witness to your many worldly achievements. I knew about your dreams, your joys and your disappointments. I shared many of your joys and some of your sadder moments.Leah, do you know how proud I am of you? From Columbia unerversity to the WTC, you led a charmed life. You were making the right choices and going to all the right places. Your life may have been short but it was a life well lived. Your life brought joy to all you touched.Yes Leah you worked hard, you partied hard, but most important of all you loved much. The love in your heart didn't know any limitations. You loved life. You loved your family. You loved your friends. You loved your fellow man. You loved your work. You loved our planet and all that was in it. In your subtle and unobstrusive way you showed me how to live my life.You are now with God and forever in my heart.'Til we embrace again, I Love You!Uncle Joe
Leah,
You were taken from us too soon
So many dreams, so many plans, so much still left to do
Now you will have them with God
You’ve made such an impact on your family and friends
I am sure you will continue to be just as amazing
You could light up a room with your smile
Now it lights up the sky above
Your unique laughter, so much laughter
Now you laugh with angels
I learned many things from you
The joy of giving
The true meaning of beauty
Mom’s success story
A precious treasure she will hold dear to her heart with much pride
A flame has gone out for all of us
Your flame burns eternally
You were my angel on earth
Now you are my angel in Heaven
We will love you, remember you and miss you as long as we live
Good night my love, look for me.
Aunty P
To Leah,There are so many little things I shall never forget about you, from little greasy fingerprints on cocktail table tops, to that broad mischievious smile that quickly turned into a grin, to a serious pensive ear that grasped and understood all that was in my heart and soul. These little simple things I shall never forget about you.I watched you grow in years filled with joy and wonder. I saw you blossom into a beautiful young lady in the prime of her life. I was a witness to your many worldly achievements. I knew about your dreams, your joys and your disappointments. I shared many of your joys and some of your sadder moments.Leah, do you know how proud I am of you? From Columbia unerversity to the WTC, you led a charmed life. You were making the right choices and going to all the right places. Your life may have been short but it was a life well lived. Your life brought joy to all you touched.Yes Leah you worked hard, you partied hard, but most important of all you loved much. The love in your heart didn't know any limitations. You loved life. You loved your family. You loved your friends. You loved your fellow man. You loved your work. You loved our planet and all that was in it. In your subtle and unobstrusive way you showed me how to live my life.You are now with God and forever in my heart.'Til we embrace again, I Love You!Uncle Joe
To Leah,
There are so many little things I shall never forget about you, from little greasy fingerprints on cocktail table tops, to that broad mischievious smile that quickly turned into a grin, to a serious pensive ear that grasped and understood all that was in my heart and soul.
These little simple things I shall never forget about you.
I watched you grow in years filled with joy and wonder.
I saw you blossom into a beautiful young lady in the prime of her life. I was a witness to your many worldly achievements. I knew about your dreams, your joys and your disappointments. I shared many of your joys and some of your sadder moments.
Leah, do you know how proud I am of you? From Columbia unerversity to the WTC, you led a charmed life. You were making the right choices and going to all the right places. Your life may have been short but it was a life well lived. Your life brought joy to all you touched.
Yes Leah you worked hard, you partied hard, but most important of all you loved much. The love in your heart didn't know any limitations. You loved life. You loved your family. You loved your friends. You loved your fellow man. You loved your work. You loved our planet and all that was in it. In your subtle and unobstrusive way you showed me how to live my life.
You are now with God and forever in my heart.
'Til we embrace again, I Love You!
Uncle Joe