Scott Bart

Family Tribute:Scott Daniel Bart

Each day, while in college, Scott posted an “Official Writing of the Day” on his dorm door. This is one of our favorites.

The Official Date: November 5, 1991

“Fate”

If my fate is predeterminedBy a force beyond comprehensionWhere will I find myself?What will be my destination?

Has everything I’ve ever doneBeen decided before I did it?Has everything I’ve ever thoughtBeen known before I said it?

It’s scary to think of my lifeOn a track I will never deviate,And all the control I thought I hadWas always in the hands of fate.

Isn’t fate a fascinating concept? I’m sure you know what I mean. Well, live life to its fullest!

Later,Scott

People always hear stories about why a person dies, and that every person is put on earth for a reason. Scott’s purpose must have been to be perfect, to put other before himself. He was never selfish or undeserving, but unfortunately for all of us who loved him so much, he found his perfect life earlier than most, on September 11, 2001.

By the age of twenty-eight, he already started a family with the most wonderful wife he could ever be matched with. Elizabeth, who we are so glad he brought into our family, and has helped my parents and all of us, get through this tragic time. She is our reminder of how wonderful Scott really was. Scott had a successful job, was respected by his peers and was envied by many. He was a great role model for his siblings, cousins, friends and many others who were lucky enough to know him. When looking upon his life we would tell our friends the wonderful things he did, just to make us look better because we were related to someone so perfect. Scott wrote an email to a friend of his and ended the letter by saying, “Everything else is good. I’m really happy with life, work and love – what else could you ask for?”

Knowing that Scott was happy with his life and lived the most of his short life puts us a little more at ease. The fact that we will never see him again, or hear him laugh or even make fun of us, hurts our hearts so much and that is pain that will never go away. We are grateful for the fact that all of us got to know and love this great man. It makes us know that someone so great really does exist. People like him are hard to come by and when you do find them, cherish the time you have with them.

“Somehow I know we’ll meet again, not quite sure where and I don’t know just when. You’re in my heart so until then, it’s time for saying good-bye.” -The Muppets

Renee, James and Kathryn (siblings)

Dear Friends and Family,

From the time they were born, our four children have been our number one priority. Each has had their own personality and has made us honored to be their parents. Our oldest child Scott was no exception.

As a child Scott was very inquisitive and often into things he shouldn’t be. He remained inquisitive in school, although his teachers referred to it as talking excessively and having trouble staying in his seat. By high school he began liking his siblings and stopped trying to convince us to sell them. As most children became rebellious (although he had his moments) Scott was into family. He loved vacationing together, helping his siblings into and out of trouble, and helping his dad do things around the house and working on cars. He graduated from high school as a member of the National Honor Society. After being away at college for four years, where he sang the National Anthem for his graduating class, he returned home to work in the computer field.

All was going well in his life. He remained very close to his siblings, continuing to help them through many “situations,” which loved to share with us years later. He loved is job with Marsh & McLennan, married a wonderful girl named Liz on August 4 and bought a house in our neighborhood. Scott and Liz wanted to be near both their parents. They always invited us to go house hunting with them, included us in their wedding plans and their future hopes and dreams. Although they had only been married a few weeks, they came over often to visit and chat, as we were often at their home (Liz is a wonderful cook). Scott and Liz always put family and friends first and wanted everyone to feel at home and happy. We will miss him immensely.

Our sadness is all encompassing, but endurable because of the support of our wonderful children: Renee, James, Kathryn and Liz, our terrific families who have been there for us twenty-four hours a day, all our wonderful friends and neighbors. Your love, concern and support overwhelm us. We are surviving because of all of you. Thank you and we love you all.

Nancy and Danny (parents)

I feel so blessed to have known Scott, even if only for a short time. His love, compassion, honesty and humor are qualities that I will always strive to imitate. I miss his gorgeous smile, contagious laugh, sarcastic comments, amazing voice and creative energy. I will always remember feeling lost on the Grand Canal, singing eighties tunes and staring into his pale green eyes. I will never forget the feeling of safety that came with waking up in his arms or my heart’s uncontrollable elation on our wedding day. I laugh daily at funny memories, smile at our romantic moments, and cry for my overwhelming sense of loss. One of my favorite songs that Scott wrote has a very simple message:

It’s love that makes me think of you, every time, every day. It’s my heart that makes me want to say, I Love You. So now you have gone away and there’s one thing I have to say. I Love You.”

Love and Peace,Liz

It’s a fight for tomorrowA fight we must winLet us reach to God in heavenAnd save this world we’re in.

- Scott Bart

Eulogy for Scott BartGive by Elizabeth Bart

November 10, 2001

On behalf of myself and the rest of Scott’s family, I would like to take this opportunity to thank you all for coming and sharing in our celebration of Scott’s life. On a very personal level, I would like to thank my family for their love and support and Scott’s family for adopting me and truly making me feel comfortable as a part of their family. Scott’s parents have given me and the world a most amazing gift in their son. I will always be grateful to them. Thank you.

Many people have asked me how Scott and I met. Friends and family, newspaper reporters have wanted to hear a very romantic story. Scott was the most romantic man I have ever known, however I’ve always found our first meeting a little embarrassing. I’ve decided to share it with you today.

We were at a bar called “Bucket of Brew”. I had gotten in with my fake ID and Scott, who was never shy, got down on one knee and asked me to be his pool partner. I’m not quite sure what possessed me to say yes that day, but I do know that somehow I was drawn to Scott’s exciting and daring personality – not to mention his stunning good looks. The next week he showed up at my house with a surprise picnic in the trunk of his 1979 Dodge Aspen, wrote and sang a gorgeous song to me and we spent virtually every minute together for a month. I went to live in Belgium for the year and we emailed every day. I was experiencing so many exciting things and my day was not complete unless I had the opportunity to share them with Scott. He often wrote to me about how I needed to recognize and enjoy my experiences, to live my life to the fullest and that he would be waiting for me. I believed him then, and I believe him now. Scott was in my corner from the very first day we met and continues to be my source of strength. The next time Scott got down on one knee, I knew exactly why to say yes. My most proud moment was when I became Scott’s wife.

Since our first meeting at “Bucket of Brew,” Scott and I have grown together and I have learned so much from our relationship. I have learned the power and need for laughter. For example, I now see that it is ok to be embarrassed, especially if it will make a group of people laugh and smile when they are so sad. Through Scott’s dedication to his job and his amazing work ethic, I have learned the benefits of hard work and the need to enjoy you job and the people that surround you there. We often imagined what it would be like to have children and wanted our children to inherit so many aspects of Scott’s family life and his relationship between his siblings. We laughed about how our daughters would fight over the room with the big closet in our new home and how much trouble our first child would bring us considering Scott was such a terror. My heart weeps so much, but I feel blessed to have learned what it is like to love and to be loved unconditionally.

When I decided to speak to you today, I first felt an overwhelming sense of pressure to say the perfect words that would illustrate the magnitude of Scott’s personality. Then I realized that if you had the opportunity to meet Scott even for a day, then you know how wonderful he is. I say, “He is” because he is still alive in all of our hearts! I don’t know of any words that can truly do justice to Scott. Instead, what I ask of you is to allow his strong personality to guide you, as I have through this very difficult time. Think of the funny memories to make and others around you smile. I believe that whenever we smile, he smiles down on us. Strive to do good for others as he always did, for it does truly make you happier. Work towards success in all aspects of your life so that you can live with the pride and joy that he had throughout his short life.

Thank you again. Although this is a very painful time, we have found solace in the support and love that so many people have shown to us. Although Scott’s life was taken in a very evil act, his memory will live on through all of us, and he will continue to bring peace and happiness.

SHARING

What an interesting word. To some people it means when it’s convenient or easy. To other the word may not even exist. To my son Scott, it meant the world to him. He would share his thoughts, his beliefs, his ideas, his finances, his achievements, his pitfalls, and anything else the two of us could think of. In return, I shared the same things with him. This openness between us allowed each of us to continue to grow and mature. It gave each of us the insight into each other. We shared these moments every day on the telephone when he would arrive early at work. I’m glad we shared that morning together just a moment before that frightful disaster and I will always remember that conversation. We also shared in doing things together, whether it was planting shrubs, digging out tree stumps, going to picnics, going to concerts, going to games, repairing cars, shopping, buying, investing, vacationing, travelling, bagels on Sunday morning, and even blood donations. We shared so many moments together but had so many more moments to share.

If Scott was writing this, I’m sure he would tell everyone not to let life pass you by. Enjoy life with your loved ones’ now. Do not make excuses for not attending your loved ones’ events or achievements. Share these moments in life when you can.

Scott lived life to the fullest. His goal was to help everyone.

GOD BLESS YOU

-Scott’s Dad

Scott Bart: Start of a Marriage

Scott Bart and Elizabeth Cappell conducted their courtship in a 96th-floor office at 1 World Trade Center.

He was an up-and-coming vice president at Marsh & McLennan, she a student teacher at the nearby High School for Leadership and Public Service. When school let out, Ms. Cappell would grade papers alongside her future husband so that work would not separate them.

Often, Mr. Bart read the books his fiancée was teaching so they could talk about them. And he tried to confine business trips to one day.

The couple set a wedding date for Aug. 4, planned a Mexican honeymoon and bought a house in Malverne, close to his family and hers. Mr. Bart, 28, loved carpentry projects, learned at his father’s knee, and had already built a chest of drawers and sketched plans for a deck. Mrs. Bart, 24, got a job teaching English at a Long Island High School.

The Barts’ wedding day was vintage Scott, Mrs. Bart said. He did not want friends to spend a fortune for hotel rooms. So he turned over their new house — Hotel Bart, they called it — to a score of celebrants, who slept on couches, in sleeping bags and on the floor of rooms as yet unfurnished. He also rented a yellow school bus to transport everyone from the church to the reception. 'He made sure everything was taken care of,' Mrs. Bart said.

Copyright (c) 2001 by The New York Times Co. Reprinted by permission.
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I did not know Scott. I am simply a stranger paying their respects to a young man gone too soon in the prime of life. To all who loved him, and miss him, please accept my most sincere condolences. Grief is the price we pay for love. I hope you all have found peace in the years since this national tragedy and have found strength and hope from your memories. RIP.
Leslie Honcharik, Friend
Sep 14 2022 5:16AM
He was a smart and funny guy. I miss him.
Mary Russell, Colleague
Sep 11 2022 6:34PM
I worked with Scott briefly at BoNY. He’s very kind and thoughtful. The last time I saw him was on my farewell lunch before I returned back to Australia in 1999. You will always be in our hearts, Scott.
Eka, Colleague
Sep 11 2022 0:52AM
After all these years you are still strong in our memories. We still miss you and are thinking of you today mate.
Barry Bernasconi, Colleague
Sep 10 2020 10:06PM
So many stories and memories of Scott that none of us will ever forget. He was a really great guy who made us laugh, always willing to help and an incredible leader. Truly exceptional in so many ways. Most of all a geniune human being. I think of him often and grateful for knowing him.
Sherri Grasak, Colleague
Sep 11 2014 9:54PM
Hello, We don't know each other but I wanted to tell the family of Scott Bart that I placed a flag on his name at the 9-11 Memorial Walk in Sacramento, California. The memorial service was very touching. I don't know what it was, but I felt drawn to Scott's name. As soon as I got home I googled him and was devastated to learn his story. I am so sorry he was taken so young and I can only hope his family has been able to keep his legacy alive. But please know his story touched my heart and the flag was waving in his honor on September 11, 2011, just as it does everyday.
Jessica Rogers, Friend
Sep 13 2011 4:12PM
We will never forget you even in Europ.
Veronique Attal, Colleague
Sep 11 2011 2:48PM
Scott was so excited about his upcoming wedding. He'd come into my office early in the morning to tell me the latest. One day I told him about this guy who played the violin in the PATH station, and even gave him the guy's CD to play for his financee, in the hopes she'd agree to let him play at their wedding. I never knew how that turned out. Scott was a friend and a stand-up guy. I think about him often.
Stu Frank, Colleague
Sep 2 2011 8:57AM
Although I did not know Scott personally, I knew of him through Marcie Winitt. She and I were close friends. Through Marcie, Scott and I were introduced. Even though our encounters were brief and only twice, He left a lasting impression upon me. My thoughts and opinions of him were and are that of a good-natured person without ill intent for others. He struck me as being very gentle, caring and loving towards human kind. Interestingly, he left an impression on me, someone he hardly knew. Some have said, those of purity to their soul live short lives, probably because their beauty and inner wisedom is needed elsewhere. To the friends and family of Mr. Scott Bart, please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of your friend and family member. Truly, his death has touched my life. His life and death are not in vain. God Bless you all in this time of continued mourning. My warmest Regards, Vincent.
Vincent J. Del Greco, Friend
Nov 18 2010 3:28AM
I admired how you managed to put, side by side, humanity and professionalism, calm and passion. I will always remember how easy it was to deal with you, and how effective your support has always been. CIAO Scott
Alberto, Colleague
Sep 11 2008 4:30PM
My cousin Scott is the best person you will ever meet. I miss him so much. Scott I love you more then anything. I miss you so much
Morgan LaPoma, Family
Dec 2 2006 8:36PM
I've just recently been married, and I've had this overwhelming feeling that something still isn't complete. I guess that I've known what it is but I've been trying to be strong for my wife because I am going to have my own family to raise now. But the truth is that I'm devestated. I'm so unbelievably sad that Scott couldn't be at my wedding, and that he hasn't been a part of my life and the lives of our family for the last almost five years. He is of course always with us in memory, but the memories can't make fun of my current situation as he would have, or have a drink with me as we ponder the future. I feel as if life stopped that horrible day and I've just been coasting along in some strange dream ever since. I always try to tell myself that Scott wouldn't want me to feel that way, but I can't help it. And I know he would think about me just as much, and be hurt just as deeply, even if he knew I wouldn't want him to. I'm not sure what I'm trying to express, I just have had so much build up for so long that I feel I need to let it out. Scott, I know you were watching me and I hope that you're proud of the way I'm trying to handle all of this. I really wish I could talk with you about everything but I know that even if you can't answer, I know you'll listen to me. So please help me along in my uncertain future, I love you and I know that you would have been so eager to offer any assistance possible. Your family has been so wonderful to me and I know that you're working through and with them. I am so honored to be your brother's best man, and I will always do my best to be like a brother to him, because he is one to me, and make you proud. But truthfully, you and your entire family have always been just an extension of my immediate family, it's like a having two complete, wonderful families looking out for you and loving you, and I couldn't ask for anything more, except to have you here with all of us. So I love you Scott, I've never stopped and I never will, and I'll always know that you're smiling at all of us, because that's just how you are. I love and miss you more than I could ever explain, Your Cousin Anthony
Anthony LaPoma, Family
Jul 18 2006 12:03PM
Scott was a wonderful person. Eveyone knew that...I am no different. Who am I to even add to such a page, to such a wonderful person? All I know is that I am much richer for knowing him. That day effected us all some more than others. But those who knew Scott personally, well we of course felt that day much more than others. Often times I feel bad because I often place the face of 911 at Scott's door and that is not fair to his memory or the other's that lost their life that day, but at the same time, I still miss him and wish the best for his family.....I love him still and always will....God Bless his family
Tracy, Colleague
Mar 5 2005 11:31PM
I first met Scott working at Bennigan's in Garden City. It was right after he graduated college and before he started working in the city full time. He was a wonderful person, and we remained friends for a few years after that. We lost touch when he moved to New Jersey, but I do remember when he told me about meeting Liz. Liz, if you read this, I just want you to know Scott fell in love with you from the moment he laid eyes on you. He knew he was meant to spend the rest of his life with you. Although we lost touch, I've always thought of Scott from time to time and decided to look him up to see where he was. I was shocked and devastated to find that he was lost in 9/11. I was there that day and had no idea that Scott was there too. To his family: My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sorry I found out so late. Marcie
Marcie Winitt, Friend
Jan 3 2005 9:55AM
I had met Scott through my friend Rich, Scott's cousin. Although i hadnt seen him in quite a while (Rich's wedding, i believe), i had always remembered Scott to be a loving, smart and very funny person. The times that i had spent in his company were always fun-filled. This morning i was doing a routine search for something totally unrelated in Yahoo, and wouldnt you know it, at the top of the search was the link to this page, which i hadn't ever even knew existed! Some people might consider that coincidence, but people who are fortunate to know special people like Scott would know better. I believe it was fate that drew me here, and i felt the need to post my brief thoughts here with all of you. My thoughts are still with all of you after this time. May God Bless you all. Andrew DiGregorio
Andrew DiGregorio, Family
Aug 27 2003 8:34AM
today i met scott thru his wonderful wife and family for the very first time..i live in ga and came across his tribute page.i felt like i had to say something to honor him. i live in ga. and 2 years ago i visited the world trade center after saving my money for 9 months to go on a lifelong trip..i had always wanted to go to nyc.the buildings were as if majestic ones no one will ever forget if you ever saw them..can you imagine a ga cracker on top of a 110 story building when my home town only has 2 story buildings .what a blast..i admire your courage ..i lost my dad 9 months ago so i know what it is to feel deep loss..remember this is you remember nothing else..keep this in mind every second..today is the day..that JESUS may return for us..i hold that hope..god bless all of you and GREAT BIG HUGS TO LISA... diane
diane, Friend
Oct 25 2002 6:03PM
It was the laugh that got me. Scott hadn't come back to work at Marsh when I first met him, but he joined us for lunch one day when we were still on Broad St. As I approached the table he was sitting at one end and had just made a comment that he apparently found hilarious, and he belted out that great laugh. I can still hear it in my head. Happily I had numerous other opportunities to hear that great laugh and see that great smile, and to know Scott for the great man that he was. I always appreciated his over-the-top sense of humor, and I always enjoyed not knowing just how far he would go with a joke. I'm also grateful that I got to know his generous and caring side. When I got laid off last year he sat me down and made me tell him all my skills and interests and gave me advice on where to look for jobs and how to present myself. He was genuinely concerned, even followed up with some emails to check on my progress. He even offered to hire me to clean his office. Typical Scott. Supremely generous and obnoxious. I loved both of those qualities about him equally. I remember with great detail the last time I saw him (in a bar, of course, with other Marsh folks) and I am sad that it was so long ago. I took for granted that it would never be a big deal to see him again. I try not to do that with my friends anymore. I try to always remember that we need to make efforts to connect with the people we love. I miss Scott, and I am so grateful I got to have him in my life, even if it was too brief.
Dina Rugani, Colleague
Sep 12 2002 5:08PM
I am an MBA candidate at the University of Tampa and a former employee of Marsh Advantage America. As part of the school's remembrance, wristbands were handed out, each bearing the name of someone who perished in the attacks of September 11, 2001. As I passed through the business building, I asked for a wristband. I received Scott Bart's name. It strikes me as amazing that I received someone from Marsh--everyone else in the department got names from the NYFD and NYPD. It was as if I were allowed to be a part of the Marsh family again. Thank you, Scott. Thank you for letting me remember you.
Peter Diebel, Colleague
Sep 11 2002 5:23PM
Scott quite possibly had the most infectious smile I’ve even seen. It was a pleasure to see him at work in the morning, because he’d always flash his big, toothy, sincere grin followed by a “Good Morning” that would invariably put me in a good mood. I remember one time at work; Scott approached me and talked to me about my career in the company. He asked what I was working on, what I would be interested in learning, and then gave me a few computer books from his vast collection that he thought would be useful for me. In the following weeks, he asked how everything was coming along and if I had any questions or anything he could help with. He offered to give me guidance and direction on his own, without my asking. It is rare to find someone who is willing to donate their time and knowledge as freely as Scott did for me. I will always be appreciative of his generosity, not only with his time, but with his kindness. I will always remember how he spoke freely and openly, and how you always knew what he thought and where you stood with him. I will always remember his ability to talk for hours about the current project he was working on (and he always seemed to keep himself busy on some project, be it building furniture to taking care of his lawn). And I will never forget his fantastic, huge, contagious smile.
Advait Deodhar, Colleague
Sep 11 2002 2:07PM
Scott is one of my best friend's cousins.I never really got a chance to get to know him personally, but he seemed like a wonderful person. My friend Alison lives next door to his wife Liz. Aly and I would always walk her dog in the middle of the night up and down the block. Until one night in the winter we decided to walk her dog and he got loose. We were chasing after him until I slipped on a patch of ice and Aly stopped to help me. We were both thinking the dog was long gone after that. So she got upset....I'll never forget it...the snow was just beginning to get heavy and it was getting harder and harder to see. So we decided to head back home -in no hopes the dog would show up- and out of no where this man comes and brings her dog back. I look up at him in awe, thinking to myself how could anyone catch this dog in the heavy snow storm. Out of the goodness of his heart he brought back her dog. I just stood there and stared at him as though i was frozen. His eyes were so full of hapiness. He had bright rosey cheeks, his nose and smile were indescribable. When this man smiled he lit up any area that he was in. He delivered the dog back to my friend and within moments he was gone. I couldn't believe it in that split second, I had witnessed an angel.
Lauren I, Friend
Jul 29 2002 1:37PM
Scott was the most amazing man I have ever met in my life. Everytime I saw him he always had a big smile on his face. He was kind loving and always put himself before others. When I was a child Scott would always pick me up in his car and take me on what we called 'dates'. I always had the best time. We would eat Spaghetti and Meatballs and watch 'Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory' It was alone time that I got to spend with him and I loved it. One day I was sitting in my bedroom listening to music and he at the time was just dating Liz(Whom I love very much). I was in about 3rd grade at the time and I told him I knew all the words to 'A Whole New World' the Aladdin song. He asked if I would sing it for him and I said no because I was too shy. When I found out that we had lost him on September 11 my heart was completely broken. I thought that I would never love anyone the way I loved my cousin Scott. To me he was the only one who understood me when I was mad. He knew when I needed a friend and when I needed advice from a big cousin. He was always there knowing how to cure me from pain and this time he wasn't there to do it. On a cd a friend made me is the song 'A Whole New World' and everytime I hear that song I think of him and I can imagine hearing him sing. In my heart I was never again going to feel the way I felt about him for anyone. Scott lifted me up when I couldn't reach, he gave me faith because he believed. As a cousin the loss of him was very hurting. As I try hard to remember the good times, sometimes I still cry remembering those good times. Although I am very emotional and I do tend to cry a lot about it I was told by many It's ok to cry and it is. I also realize that he's looking down on us sometimes saying don't cry and laughing at us. As a friend told me I tell the world Family,& friends, We have not lost somebody, We have only gained an angel. God Bless Everyone! Remeber to always take the time out to say I Love You. I never got to say I Love You or Goodbye before that day. Live each day to the fullest! GOD BLESS and Love and Peace to all! Scott's little cousin Mary LaPoma
Mary LaPoma, Family
Jul 28 2002 2:27PM
I grew up with my cousin Scott my whole life. As early as I can remember he was always around and I always looked up to him because he was my older, 'cooler' cousin. I remember going to wildwood when I was very young and having Scott give me advice on how to tip my sunglasses when I saw a hot girl. I remember hanging out with Scott for two weeks in my old house when he was re-doing our basement. I loved hanging around him. He always made time for me and made me feel important because he knew I looked up to him. More recently, a few years back I was going through some teenage trouble and Scott sat me down and very un-parent like told me to get on the right track and shared some of his own misfortunes with me. I never really thanked him for his time and advice but I always appreciated it greatly. I wish I had the time to do it now but I don't, so Scott- I know you're listening in heaven- thank you so much for everything you helped me with, I love you man and I miss you with all my heart. I'll see you when I get there, your cousin always Anthony
Anthony LaPoma, Family
Jul 28 2002 12:47PM
Its so hard to summarize my thoughts about Scott because I think about him all the time and its always something new. On 9/11, not only did I lose my nephew, I lost a good friend. Although Scott and I were 10 years apart, we grew up together and shared alot of good times together. Most recently, we had both found our soul mates, gotten married and had bought houses. How sad it makes me that we will not have future events to also share together. I miss him terribly as I know all of his family does and we can never thank enough, his friends, for their never ending support - Thank You. Scotts Aunt Mary
Mary Colgan, Family
Jul 25 2002 12:45PM
To this day I still have trouble gathering the courage to talk about Scott without getting emotional. I will do my best here... Scott is the brother I never had. We have always been in each other's life one way or another. As fate would bring us close in some moments and separate us in others, he always meant the world to me. Even as the oldest cousin in the family, I've always admired Scott. I've always realized he had untapped potential. From the days of programming Commodore 64's, to going to high school together, I knew he was very talented. I was envious of him because success was so natural while others may have to work harder at it. He always has been a talented and a special person. I am a very lucky to have been blessed with having Scott in my life. Scott will always be in my heart. The pain of his absence will always be felt but the memories and love for him outweigh the pain. Sometimes sitting on a train going to work, I crack a smile thinking about something he said or had done. Even in his absence, thoughts and love for Scott still exist. Not only as a husband, brother or cousin, but also as a true friend. Below I listed a few versus of Faith Hill's Every Breath You Take. It's been slightly modified but demonstrates how I’ll always feel. I know Scott would have appreciated this knowing his passion for music. ....... Life ain't always what it seem to be, Words can't express what you mean to me Even though you're gone, we're still a team Through our family, I'll fulfill your dream In the future, can't wait to see If you'll open up the gates for me Reminisce some time, the day they took my friend Try to black it out, but it plays again When it's real, feelings hard to conceal Can't imagine all the pain I feel Give anything to hear half your breath I know you still living your life, after death It's kinda hard with you not around Know you're in heaven smiling down Watching us while we pray for you Every day we pray for you Til the day we meet again, In my heart is where I'll keep you friend Memories give me the strength I need to proceed Strength I need to believe My thoughts Scott I just can't define Wish I could turn back the hands of time Still can't believe you're gone Give anything to hear half your breath I know you still living you're life, after death …… Live life to it’s fullest. Love, Rick –Scott’s Cousin
Richard S Bart, Family
Jul 16 2002 1:27PM
As I post this, the site gave me a drop down list to indicate my relationship with Scott. Which to pick, colleague or friend? Scott was clearly both. I knew Scott from his first job with J&H;, kept in touch as he moved to better opportunities, and hired him back to Marsh. Scott always had that ridiculous energy and I knew he would succeed. Scott ran a very successful group for Marsh. I always knew I had cursed him with a job he loved. I certainly never had to worry about him working hard enough. About the only suggestion I ever gave him was to go home once in a while. Or that he not take his laptop on his honeymoon. I got a very nice promotion last November and I really missed having Scott there to share it. He was a big part of my success. Our best conversations were early in the morning. We were among the few people typically in the office at 8:00 am, so Scott would wander into my office to talk about whatever was pressing. It might be that a sales person overpromised something that Scott's group had to deliver. Scott would tell me all about it, how crazy it was, and then would go off and do it anyway. Or we'd talk about non-work stuff. I think we all remember his house buying angst. I remember Scott walking around the office in his socks. Some people mentioned it to me, so I had to ask Scott to try to keep his shoes on. He then pointed out certain people in the office whose attire was, shall we say less than business casual. 'If so-and-so can dress like that, why can't I walk around in my socks?'. He had a pretty good point. There are so many memories. One of the best things about working in a technology group (if you're a technology geek) is the 'hey, do you want to see something cool?' factor. Scott both loved to see cool technology and created lots of cool things. It's a bit weird in our new office. I used to arrive at 8:00 and Scott and Jeff would already be there. I miss the folks who would normally be in early. Our lives are the richer for having known them, but they are all missed.
Stephen Fischer, Colleague
May 6 2002 9:53AM
Thanks to Scott for: Always answering my questions and adding your own two cents, stopping by to chat for two hours or more when you were in town whether we had time to chat or not, sharing a desk in London even though there was no room, sharing your new found info on how to clean a hardwood floor, giving Eric a hard time no matter what, cookies on Alex's face while he was sleeping, New Orleans, and last of all your twisted sense of humor. Miss you. Ann
Ann, Colleague
Apr 10 2002 12:20PM